YOUR WIFE IS NOT YOUR PUNCHING BAG!!!

Husband, for your information, YOUR WIFE IS NOT YOUR PUNCHING BAG!!!

The common reasons given by Husbands to beat up their wife, (either Mentally, Emotionally, or Physically) are:-

•  I am in distress- so I Beat my wife (either Mentally, Emotionally or Physically)
• I am feeling like a failure- so I  Beat my wife (either Mentally, Emotionally or Physically)
• I had a bad day at work – so I Beat my wife (either Mentally, Emotionally or Physically)
• I am feeling unwell – so I Beat my wife (either Mentally, Emotionally or Physically)
• My friends did not invite me out for drinks/holiday/party/work/partnership- so I Beat my wife (either Mentally, Emotionally or Physically)
• I am frustrated with my Life – so I Beat my wife (either Mentally, Emotionally or Physically)
• I am depressed/anxious/fearful/dejected – so I Beat my wife (either Mentally, Emotionally or Physically)
• I don’t earn as much as I want to – so I Beat my wife (either Mentally, Emotionally or Physically)
• My father beat me up- so I Beat my wife (either Mentally, Emotionally or Physically)
• My mother did not stand up for herself- so I Beat my wife (either Mentally, Emotionally or Physically)
• I was abused as a child- so I Beat my wife (either Mentally, Emotionally or Physically)
• I suffer from inferiority/superiority complex- so I Beat my  wife (either Mentally, Emotionally or Physically)
• My children are not listening to me- so I Beat my  wife (either Mentally, Emotionally or Physically)
• My wife does not behave the way I want her to – so I Beat my wife (either Mentally, Emotionally or Physically)
• My wife has expectations from me – so I Beat my  wife (either Mentally, Emotionally or Physically)
• My wife does not cook the food the way I want it – so I Beat my  wife (either Mentally, Emotionally or Physically)
• My wife does not smile nicely at me – so I Beat my wife (either Mentally, Emotionally or Physically)
• My wife pays more attention to other men – so I Beat my wife (either Mentally, Emotionally or Physically)

The list is endless. …For any and every thing NOT happening as per the expectations of the HUSBAND, the husband beats up his wife, either Mentally, Emotionally or Physically.

This is NOT a recent trend. THIS IS A WAY OF LIFE THAT HUSBANDS HAVE CONVENIENTLY ADOPTED FOR THEMSELVES over the centuries, over the generations and over time itself..

This HABBIT has PATRIACHY written all over it. Male dominance with an open overlying intention of women subjugation.

How easily, conveniently and effortlessly the Husband takes it as a way of life for himself and for his wife and how easily, conveniently and effortlessly the WIFE has accepted this as a way of HER life. PLEASE, please, please, DO NOT NORMALIZE this HABIT of using the WIFE as a personal PUNCHING BAG.

HELLO!!! STOP!!!!

You say you love your wife, you know you cannot live without her, you know she is the pillar in your Life, then HOW??? HOW have you relegated her to the position of a NON-HUMAN????  HOW have you made her your PUNCHING BAG??? HOW have you made yourself believe that it is OK for you to use your wife as your own personal PUNCHING BAG? SIR, it is NOT OK.

Don’t you know she is a living being??? Don’t you know she is made of flesh and blood, the same as you? Don’t you know she FEELS hurt, pain, anger, fear, frustration and EVERY EMOTION, JUST as YOU?

And, the WIFE? What are you thinking??? Why are you allowing yourself to be treated as a DOOR MAT and a PUNCHING BAG??? DO not give the excuse of CENTURIES OLD CONDITIONING. DO not allow yourself to be used and abused. Do you know that FEMALES of ALL SPECIES ARE STRONGER, MORE EMPOWERED AND MORE RESILIANT THAN MALES of their respective species ?? Females of ALL other species KNOW this. It is only the FEMALES OF THE HUMAN SPECIES who are clueless of the immense superiority over the males of their species, that we are BORN with. 

What happened with other wives in the past is NOT YOUR STORY. YOU DO NOT Have to remain subjugated, you DO NOT have to CONFORM to the NORMS and standards set by HUSBANDS and accepted by WIVES, centuries ago.  THINK for YOURSELF, PROTECT your self, RISE and SHINE and say you will NOT PUT up with this abuse any More. The days of male dominance and female subjugation are over. DO NOT give the excuse that this is a societal NORM. DO NOT convince yourself that THIS IS THE ONLY WAY THE FAMILY WILL STAY TOGETHER.

NO Ma’am NO. The onus of building a strong, loving and resilient family does not remain ONLY with you. IT is the HUSBANDS responsibility too. STOP bowing down to dictates of the world/society/patriarchy. Stand up for yourself. NO one is going to help you, ONLY YOU can help your self.

WIFE, Set your BOUNDRIES right, build up on your self esteem, build up your confidence, become financially independent, ascert your RIGHT to be treated with DIGNITY and RESPECT. It is so so unfortunate that a woman has to ASK to be treated with DIGNITY and RESPECT…a BASIC requirement of HUMAN EXISTANCE.

AND the HUSBANDS of this world… This article is NOT about HUSBANDS verses WIFES or bashing the HUSBANDS.

This article is for YOU to recognize, understand and accept, that how much ever loving and caring you are towards your wife…the MINUTE YOU UTILIZE YOUR WIFE AS YOUR PUNCHING BAG….it is GAME OVER for you. Your wife may not show it, she may not protest, she may not voice it….HOWEVER…she FEELS it. And the more you continue to use her as a PUNCHING BAG…..she slowly starts DYING from WITHiN. And it is not only Her Soul which is dying from within, the LOVE, the RESPECT, THE CARING  she has for you…also starts dying from within.

NOW, remember ALL the previous times you have used her as a PUNCHING BAG…and REALISE how you have DAMAGED her, how much she has died from within and how much her love and respect for you has died from within. UNDERSTAND NOW…that when she is looking at you through the love lorne eyes…. She is hiding her pain, trauma and agony from within.

And once you have managed to become so sensitive that you ARE able to see her well hidden pain/agony and trauma…..ASK YOURSELF…..IS THIS HOW YOUR WIFE (your LOVE/your PILLAR of STRENGTH/this WOMAN/ this HUMAN BEING) is LOOKING AT YOU????

NOW ask your self, DO YOU LIKE THE WAY YOUR WIFE IS LOOKING AT YOU? ARE YOU FEELING HAPPY ABOUT IT? IS THIS “LOOK” MAKING YOUR FEEL PROUD OF YOURSELF? IS THIS HOW YOU WANT ANOTHER HUMAN BEING TO BE LOOKING AT YOU? ARE YOU COMFORTABLE WITH THIS “LOOK”? IS THIS LOOK ENRICHING YOUR SELF IMAGE? IS THIS LOOK MAKING YOU FEEL MAN ENOUGH? IS THIS  “LOOK MAKING YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF? IS THIS THE “LOOK” YOU WANT TO SEE IN YOUR WIFE’S EYES????

If YES, then go on, go ahead and continue with what you were doing.

If NOT, then make changes. Make those changes which will erase the pain/agony/trauma from your WIFE’S eyes and re-instill love, respect, and caring in her mind, body and soul, FOR YOU.

Being a typical male, inspite of knowing you want to change, you will NOT know what changes you need to make to bring in the desired results. I will not blame you for this as you TOO have imbibed centuries of PATRIACHAL conditioning.

So here are some steps you can take to bring about the CHANGE in you.

• FIRST AND FOREMOST—DECIDE that from here on you will NOT UTILIZE YOUR WIFE AS YOUR PUNCHING BAG.
• DECIDE that from here on, you will start looking for ways to release your stress/anger/frustration/anxiety/fear/depression through more constructive and meaningful ways, in a manner which will not damage your wife, your family, NOR your SELF.
• Observe and learn from your WIFE or Women, how they handle their Life’s challenges. Do you think WOMEN are immunie to stress/anxiety/fear/depression???? How do they deal with it? Ask her.
• ALL human beings/NOT JUST WOMEN, are endowed with powerful traits such as LOVE/COMPASSION/FORGIVENESS/EMPATHY. Which means, you have these traits too. They are just dormant. Tap into them and bring them forth.
• Get into Therapy. There are experts in this field who will help you Upgrade your Mental, Emotional & Spiritual Quotient (MES-Q).
• Join a gym, work out your excess energy and stress. Ask your gym trainer to provide you with a PUNCHING BAG. Download ALL your anxiety/fear/stress/frustration/anger ON TO THIS PUNCHING BAG.

If you have any more suggestions, on how the HUSBAND can stop USING HIS WIFE AS HIS PUNCHING BAG….Please write in the comments section below

Leena R Prabhoo

Amazon #1 Bestselling Author, Prajñā Strategist, Spiritual & Mental Health Coach, Recipient of TOP 100 HEALTHCARE LEADERS AWARD (DUBAI), Prajñā Strategist, Spiritual & Mental Health Coach, Certified Past Life Regression Therapist, Certified Telepathic Communicator & International Speaker

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